They say that relationships are a two way street and that it takes two to tango. There are a set of individuals who have insisted on having a relationship with my 5 year old son, but refuse to put any effort into it. As it sits right now, we are expected to put forth the effort to make any and all plans regarding visits and time together. We send them plans about what we’ll be doing (and when), as well as go over to their place(s) to visit. However, no effort was made on their end in regards to meeting us at any outting we send them info on, nor did they make any effort to visit us at our place for a visit. They would always end up complaining about having no relationship with my son. It was clear that it was becoming one sided and their actions (or lack thereof) became louder than their words. Since moving, they have not reached out once. I have absolutely no interest in reaching out to them.
Going forward, the door will be left open if they choose to step through it. However, until they decide to change their ways (which probably won’t be any time soon), we’re not making any effort to go out of our way to include them. It takes two to make any relationship to work and I refuse to go out of my way to make it work. They’re losing out on the opportunity to know a wonderful human being.
Island of Misfit Mamas 