So, for the last year, I’ve been dealing with a narcissistic, toxic neighbour. The building where I currently live is a former tri-level house that has been split into three apartments. The thermostat that controls the temperture for the ENTIRE HOUSE resides in the apartment of the fellow who lives on the main floor. He has made it known that he prefers colder temperatures and has acted accordingly when it comes setting the temperature on the thermostat. A locked thermostat was installed in early October 2023, but he managed to find a loophole to keep the HVAC system from cycling properly. We’ve actually gotten into at least one heated argument over this.
As a result of having to deal with his toxic behaviour (and a landlord who refuses to acknowledge that this neighbour has an alter ego), it’s lead to some trauma (since he INSISTS on keeping it cold, keeps finding ways to keep it cold, and will even sacrifice his own family’s comfort to ensure that everyone in the house knows who remains in control).
There have been many times in the past year where I have snapped because of encountering a ‘trigger moment’, but have gotten reprimanded for it. I have been very open with those around me about what has been happening and how it has affected not only me, but our entire household. Everytime I snap because of a trigger moment, all anyone sees is the reaction. Trying to explain the connection is like talking to a brick wall.
If you’ve found yourself in a situation where a specific moment triggered you, what have you done that has helped you from reacting?
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