Think Positive!

I have encountered many people who have the mindset that every negative can be turned into a positive. Or, it’s a mindset of ‘No negativity allowed’.

However, as someone who is currently trying to get out a negative situation caused by someone else, I honestly don’t see the benefit. Yes, having a positive outlook on life is a good thing. But if you’re in the midst of fighting for a better way of life, trying to find the positives of a negative situation is the last thing you’re worried about. Sometimes, there needs to be a distance between you and the negative situation before you can even begin to process it. Every experience that someone goes through has the potential to change you and alter you in a way that you never expected. To minimize the negative is almost like gaslighting because, at that point, you’re minimizing the traumatic experience and expecting it to have no more of an impact than, say, a papercut.

How a situation affects an individual is not up for you to determine. Neither is how it is chosen to be viewed. If you’re in a situation with someone who has just gone through a negative experience, instead of trying to get them to find the positives, help them by showing up. How they choose to navigate isn’t up to you. While you can help guide them, which path they actually end up on will be determined by what helps heal.