…and the world doesn’t care.
.I know I’ve been venting a lot about this lately (and I’m pretty sure everybody is tired of hearing about this), and I am very well aware that this is coming across as a spat over a thermostat to many and the topic should be dropped. But there are times (like today) where it becomes too much. It’s been hovering at the freeze mark ALL DAY, with flurries even showing up at one point in the early afternoon. While the furnace WAS cycling early in the day, a portable heater was placed near the thermostat late in the afternoon to throw the sensor to keep it from cycling properly. When you have someone who is SO OBSESSED about remaining in control, that he’s more than happy to pull a power trip and keep you in the cold just to prove that he can. No amount of complaining or attempts to talk to find a happy medium seem to help, but somehow it makes it worse. I’m basically dealing with a narcissist.
Since I’m not an author, so I don’t have a way with words. There are nusances to the situation that make it difficult to convey exactly how bad the situation is with the neighbour. No amount of intervention from third parties (like the city) seem to help. Any system that has been set up to prevent (or fix) this type of situation doesn’t account for someone who knows how to skirt the rules. Instead, with this type of situation, it’s encouraged to ‘work it out’. However, if you have someone who likes to play difficult and refuses to play by the rules because of a power trip, getting a result that’s best for EVERYONE isn’t going to happen.
There have been ripple effects from this situation that have lead to major consequences. We are now in a loophole that we can’t get out of. The only way I can describe the situation is this way: it feels like I’m in an abusive relationship. It’s one I did not choose to be in, but somehow got wrangled into. All because I made one small request to please go easy on the AC.
Tonight, I got frustrated. I got mad. I made myself loud enough to be heard by the people upstairs. I let them know exactly how mad I was at them for constantly pulling this stunt. They heard. The heat has been cycling properly ever since. But we still need out. Since tomorrow is Saturday and the city bylaw officer isn’t available to do checks on weekends, I’m expecting the heat to be off for a good portion of the day. That’s how he rolls. He knows how to work the system. He knows he has all of the control.
Island of Misfit Mamas 