Your Perception vs. My Reality

One of the biggest problems I’ve faced (outside of the narcissist) is a lack of understanding. Perception.

I have been making it abundantly clear what exactly has been happening with the narcissist and the negative effects it has had on not only me, but also with my child. The reaction has stayed relatively the same along the way: crickets!

I’ve been receiving A LOT of sympathy with my plight. While it is good to know that people are sympathetic, it hasn’t heled change the situation. From where I am sitting, all I see is a wall of blank stares.

I hhave made every effort to go through the proper channels to get the harassment to stop. I have made multiple efforts to reach out, asking for help. In return, I got doors slammed in my face telling me that hands are tied and no assistance can be offered due to logistics and technicalities. If any further help was needed, I had go this way or do that. It all lead to a dead end. Any ‘assistance’ that was offered by people I knew, it was primarily in the form of advice: go for a walk, move (‘it shouldn’t be that hard’), seek out a support help line, find a therapist. While good advice, it’s all been tried or isn’t a viable option.

What I DO need is a physical support system. People who put their foot where their mouth is and help take ACTION to help me get out of an extremely difficult situation. As it stands right now, I have NO ONE! I am essentially trying to run a household, care for a child, find a new job AND look for new housing without ANY backup. NO ONE to lean on to help me out.

I’ve already stared burning bridges and I’ve had to unfortunately cut ties with at least one person. The decision was taken lightly, but needed to be done. I’m at the point where I’m going to need to do it again with more people. While it’s been helpFUL to have individuals in my corner who are sympathetic, it’s not helpING us to get out. We NEED individuals who willing to act on their sympathetic notions, putting them foot where there mouth is and HELP us get out. We NEED that physical support system.