The Fence

The one that’s been dividing all parties involved

Where, on one side, you’ve had your entire world shattered by abuse

Where you’ve been forced to start over

Where, if you’re lucky to get out in one piece, you have to defend your actions for ‘staying’ as long as you did

The fence where, on the other side, society sits and encourages you to speak up if you need help

Where, when you do speak up and, your story is immediately put under the microscope as everyone begins looking for holes and inconsistencies

Where advice is given on how to proceed going forward in a ‘one size fits all’ protocol

As the trial of Sean ‘Puff Diddy’ Combs has shown, with abuse allegations being put in the spotlight, his ex has been scrutinized about why she stayed if it was ‘that bad’. Her behavior. Her actions. Her reasoning. After all, if she got to the point where she figured out ‘who he was’ behind closed doors, that should have been enough for her to leave, right? Even though he was setting her up to make it impossible to leave, to stay under his control. Setting up little traps so that if she did, he’d ruin her. Playing mind games. It just isn’t physical.

When that fence is up, it makes it impossible for one side to see the truth of the other. It’s easier to hide and play the blame game. Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil.

What may seem like the logical next step to you isn’t always the case. That fence is hiding more than you think it is.

It’s time for you to tear that fence down.

Take a step back and observe.

The clues are hidden in plan sight, with the abuser hoping you’ll overlook them.

This isn’t just a ‘it’s a personal matter and let them handle it’ situation.