I Saw The Difference

And I wasn’t sure if I was the only one

When RONA did their Kids DIY workshop for moms (building a planter), I noticed kids trickling in with an adult. While the kids trickled in, it wasn’t a busy kinda trickle. There was still plenty of space at the tables.

When RONA did the exact same thing for dad a month later, where kids built a toolbox for dad, there was a line waiting for spots at tables that were full. A stark difference from the previous workshop, where there were spaces available the entire time we were there.

Did I think it odd? Yes.

Was it surprising? No

Why? Because it seems people (especially moms) put more effort into celebrating Dad than vice versa.

Do moms still get celebrated? Yes, but not in the way you think.

Mothers Days gets more attention. It has a Hallmark commercial feel to it, where society makes it look like mom is being put up on a pedestal. After all, she’s the one who holds the family together. But when you lift the veil, is she really getting the day she wants? Is she REALLY being looked after? Or is it just another day in the house and mom is still running the ship without a break?

But when you turn the tables, it appears dad gets more out of his day. Where we live, that’s what was happening. The dad’s got more of the day they wanted (and deserved) than the mom’s.

Is it fair? No.

But is it the reality? Yes (at least, where we are).

Should we make a fuss? Yes.

Would it make a difference? No.

Why? Because no ones paying attention. By this time next year, everyone will have forgotten and it’ll be the same story. It becomes a broken record.