The Debate: Societal Expectations vs. Maternal Mental Health

The case is making headlines

A mother in Massachusetts killed her children

Her mental health is taking centre stage

The divide is already apparent

But should there be?

It’s a tale as old as time

Two individuals meet

Fall in love

Get married

Have children

But then it starts

For many mothers, it’s where everything starts and stops

Everything from daily care to the invisible mental workload and everything inbetween

Throw in a mental health condition, like Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Psychosis, it adds another layer

Mix in no village and it makes it harder

But it shouldn’t matter, right?

As long as she has a significant other, there’s ‘someone’ to help her

As long as she has a significant other, they can ‘trade off’ responsibilities; tag team it

As long as she has a significant other, she can ‘take a break’ when needed

As long as she has a significant other, she has someone to ‘lean on’

As long as…

…until she doesn’t

As long as…

…until she has breakdown because she’s the one carrying all the weight

As long as…

…until she gets slammed because she didn’t ask for help

Even though she did

A million times over

But no one paid attention

That is, no one paid attention until she starts to crack and begins to fall apart

The the criticism starts

She wasn’t doing enough to ask for help

Nor was she asking loudly enough

Even though she was

You just didn’t hear her until tragedy

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