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The Trauma Conversation: The Emotional

I am having this conversation There are plenty of people who don’t think it’s as bad as I claim I disagree I’m living it Are you there when I’ve checked out mentally because of the trauma? Are you there when a trigger appears and I have to fight with every fibre to keep from beingContinue reading “The Trauma Conversation: The Emotional”

Put Your Foot Where Your Mouth Is

With each passing day, the division grows It’s existed for awhile The pandemic made it worse Exponentially worse Unless your in the midst of it, you don’t really see the effects of it There’s been talk of ways to bridge that gap Give those in need a hand UP Social programs are having trouble keepingContinue reading “Put Your Foot Where Your Mouth Is”

The Great Divide: Judging a Book by It’s Cover

I can tell you until I’m blue in the face what the problem is You can tell what’s ‘needed’ to ‘fix’ it The problem? Nobody is listening It’s one thing to see a problem To view it from your perch To put your spin on it based on what you see To come to aContinue reading “The Great Divide: Judging a Book by It’s Cover”

Shattered

Burnout PTSD No village No support Roadblocks everywhere To quote the song ‘Shattered’ by O.A.R. ‘But how many times can I break ’til I shatter?Over the line, can’t define what I’m after’ The end of the tunnel is there But it keeps moving The solutions you keep suggesting have already been tried But they leadContinue reading “Shattered”

At Odds

I see it I am very well aware of where we are I am very well aware of where we need to be I am very well aware of where others THINK we are I am very well aware of where others THINK we should be I am very well aware of the gap betweenContinue reading “At Odds”

The Conversation: The Power Wheel

~ Makes me me feel afraid or unsafe with actions, gestures and/or looks ~ Makes me think I’m crazy, misrepresenting or overreacting ~ Plays mind games ~ Monitors my behavior and communication And that’s only some of what was done over a 2 year time span But yet I’m the problematic one I should haveContinue reading “The Conversation: The Power Wheel”

‘Consequences of Negligence’

“We must learn the consequences of negligence – it’s not just what we do, it’s what we DON’T do that’s important as well. We are guilty by omission.” ~ Matthew McConaughey You can tell someone a thousand times what’s happening You can change the way it’s told You can tell everyone willing to lend anContinue reading “‘Consequences of Negligence’”

The Conversation: Toxicity

Did you catch it? Was something said that sounded a little…off? Was there an action that took you off guard? Is your sixth sense kicking in, but you don’t know why? Is there someone trying to tell you something about the ‘other side’ of a certain individual? Are you listening? Or is everything being brushedContinue reading “The Conversation: Toxicity”

Are You Listening to the Behavior?

It probably started with words But they were ignored So the change started With a change of behavior The change of diet A loss of interest Uncharacteristic displays Warning signs Made through changes in personality Red flags that be easily ignored Or even explained away Band aid solutions are thrown out and slapped on, hopingContinue reading “Are You Listening to the Behavior?”

More Than Words

They can only do so much They don’t always convey the true meaning of what’s actually happening The times they get misconstrued The resulting misinterpretations When others are too busy talking AT you, not TO you Words They carry so much meaning But perceptions and misconceptions intefer So the talking stops Because what’s the pointContinue reading “More Than Words”