I’ve been told multiple times ‘You’re in my thoughts’

And it’s an EXTREMELY frustrating line

You can think about my situation all you want

You can send prayers my way all you want

Neither of them have gotten us anywhere

For you, it may be enough

For us, it’s not

Society as whole needs to put their foot where their is and step up

MAJORLY

Within a six month time span, my son and I went from a psychologically abusive situation to one where there’s physical abuse and alcoholism present (neither of us have been touched). To attempt to ask again for help isn’t an option. If you’re not willing to believe me the first time, when psychological abuse was present, why should I attempt again?

The burden of proof was already evident with behaviors…

When my son and I were altering the way we did things to prevent a reaction from the abuser, which in turn would one cause a reaction anyway…

When I started becoming withdrawn and isolating…

When seeking help only made the abuse worse…

Thoughts and prayers have no place unless you’re willing to step up and stand behind it.

Even if it means getting your hands dirty in the process

Sitting on the edge looking in

Always on the bubble

Watching as the world marches on

Constantly trying to make your voice heard

But always ignored

It isn’t about trying to fit in

There are things going on, stories that need to be told, issues that need to be addressed

But everything keeps falling on deaf ears

Society keeps failing those who are asking for help

Blame keeps being put on the wrong person

Perception is keeping individuals from seeing (and understanding) the reality of challenges that others are facing

The gap keeps growing and creating more misunderstandings, spreading misinformation

Its easier to believe a lie than the truth

Until it’s too late

Lives get destroyed because no one stepped up or stepped in

The system is broken

The human connection is vanishing

From where I sit, if I were to disappear, I doubt anyone would notice

I’ve already proven it with a handful of people

Not a peep from people who I thought cared

The blame being put on me for a situation I didn’t create

Should the dust ever settle, A TON of bridges will have burned

And I have no interest in mending any of them

True colors have shown themselves

Words can’t even begin to convey the betrayal

There’s so much I want to say, but I know very well it’s only going to fall on deaf ears

Minds have been made up

Opinions have been formed

Lines have been drawn in the sand

Until you put your foot where your mouth is, words are useless without action

As one who is sitting on the other side of the fence…

‘All you have to do is ask’

‘The resources are there’

But what you don’t see is the red tape

The loopholes that have to be jumped through

How many times you’ve been told no

To the point where you’re now feeling invisible

Afraid to ask for anything

Because you’ve been fighting too long just to be heard

It shouldn’t be so hard just to move forward

Only to be traumatized again

Because the system makes it too hard

The system is broken

An individual shouldn’t be left to feel abandoned at the end of the day

All because of a broken system

When all you have left to hang onto is a string

That broke eons ago

And you’ve begun to doubt it even existed

While the light at the end of the tunnel burned out a long time ago

Leaving you to walk around in the dark

Alone

While being told ‘Ask for help’

Knowing your not going to get it

Because of the red tape

And the loopholes

And the endless no’s

And perceptions don’t meet your reality

When society fails to follow through

When there are resources but you don’t qualify for any of them because of a technicality

When the world sees black and white but you’re drowning in gray

But you still need to move along

In a world that refuses to acknowledge the problem

So the whistle keeps getting blown

The horn keeps getting tooted

Because backing down isn’t an option

No matter how much the world tries to silence you

When you have a lot to say

But there are now words for how to say it

When you need to speak up about what’s happening

But knowing no one will believe you

When you need help

But you know no one will

When you see all the roadblocks ahead

But you’re having trouble removing them

When the universe needs to step up

But you doubt it’s never going to happen

When you’re trying desperately to break the cycle

But it’s becoming next to impossible

When society needs to step up

But you know they won’t

When you feel like a failure trying to ensure your child has a future

But every thing keeps crashing around you

I’m waiting

I’m doing everything I need to after having my world flipping upside down

I don’t have the stamina to keep going

Nor do I have the strength

I just want to curl up into a ball and disappear

The world has abandoned us

To be told to wait it out is a slap in the face

Karma will have its day with those who chose who put us here

But it shouldn’t mean we still feel like we’re drowning with no life preserver in sight

Constantly asking for help

Doors constantly being slammed in our face

Stop taking it out on me just because I decided to stand up for myself and advocate

My son and I have been through quite a bit, courtesy of a malignant, covert narcissist. While I wasn’t expecting a clean break or an easy recovery, the loophole we’ve been pushed into has only made things more complicated in terms of moving forward and is making it extremely difficult to heal.

I have no interest in retaliation or retribution, but I refuse to stay quiet on the issue. Our lives were turned upside down and we were put through hell, just because I had the nerve to stand up for myself and advocate for our right to live free of his psychological abuse.

I will keep screaming it from the rooftops about what he did. It’s part of the healing process and I refuse to be silenced.

Baby steps are being taken.

Reset

Readjust

Restart

Refocus

It’s been happening a lot over the past few weeks

It’s going to keep happening

I may have left the clutches of the narcissist, but I’m still reeling from the consequences of his actions

We’re not in a better position yet

The move was unilateral

We’re still crawling to up a mountain to try to get to where we need to be

Something we shouldn’t be doing

Healing hasn’t even scratched the surface

So, for now it’s become ‘Reset. Readjust. Restart. Refocus.’

When my son and I originally embarked on our move 2 years ago, we knew there would be change. A new neighborhood. A new home. A new room. Starting a new school. All in a new city in a new country.

The thing I expected the least was the burned bridges.

Over the course of 2 years, by sheer accident, I discovered how ruthless and evil a narcissist can be. I was aware they existed. I had already encountered a few. But compared to the one that we met when we moved here…

There are no words to describe it…

It resulted in a whole lot of bridges being burned.

And it’s going to result in a lot more before the story even ends.

The depth that the narcissist has gone…

And with no evidence to prove it…

By standing up for myself, by refusing to accept the abuse…

I saw the change

Over the course of two years, it happened slowly

I saw the change in behaviour

Your actions spoke volumes

Your own wife and kids became pawns in your game

The obsession over breaking me kept growing the more I refused to submit

I feel nothing but pity for you

For your kids

For your wife

The only thing that concerns you is making sure I pay

Paying for figuring you out

For asking you to stop

For refusing to give in

It’s become all consuming

Your family is missing out on so much because of an obsession

Because you can’t let go of your control

Because of your refusal to let go of your power

The story isn’t over yet, even though I don’t know the ending

All I know is there’s more to come

I may not know what it is or what it entails, but there’s more to it than what is seen by the human mind

The next few days will tell how the tale goes, if it changes at all

Time will tell…