For the past month, I have made it a point to refuse to react to anything the narcissist upstairs tries to throw my way. Initially, it wasn’t that hard. It took about 2 weeks for him to figure out what I was doing. Once he figured it out, he slowly started to make an effort to try to elicit a reaction.
While this may not seem like a big deal, if you’re dealing with a narcissist – it is a big deal. We’re both at the point where we both have a good idea what sets the other off. He’s been quietly trying do things that would elicit a reaction (because it has in the past), but I’ve been trying not flinch when I see it happening. Initially, it would happen randomly. When nothing happened, the attempts increased. Now, he’s gotten more brazen about it and has increased his efforts exponentially. As a result, it’s gotten harder not to react. I may see through the charade, but it doesn’t mean that it’s easy to ignore. When you’re good at playing games and know which buttons to push, a twisted mind has absolutely no qualms about taking things to the next level.
Karma is a b!tch and I have to keep reminding myself that he’s setting himself up to fall. Even though he can’t see it because his ego won’t let him.
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